Sweat starts beading up on your forehead. You start unconsciously clenching your fists in fear. The feet are glued to the floor. Only moments ago you're probably the most entertaining fun guy in the group. Then it all changed as their really gorgeous friend comes over and starts speaking with you. You start tripping over your words and you end up excusing yourself just to truly save face. "What the hell!" you think.
It's such as this for so many guys I have talked to. They are quite charming with mildly attractive women but as soon as they speak with an extremely beautiful woman they clam up and cannot do it.
I hate to lay out this fact but so long as beautiful women intimidate you to the point you can't be yourself, you won't be successful in dating them. Why? It is about agenda. Ever notice women you're not interested often fall for you? It is basically because you're confidently yourself around them and don't have any agenda if you are with them. With an extremely beautiful woman she evokes in us this base desire to obtain her, to HAVE her. This creates an extremely predator prey relationship and what does prey do when around a predator? She runs, and runs fast.
There is a guide I recently read called "The Female Brain" that explains that the part of a woman's brain that sees and interprets non-verbal signals concerning social interaction such as for instance body language, tonality, and intent, is ten times larger than the corresponding part of a man's brain. Women can sense if you are not being genuine or once you start having an agenda to HAVE her.
Some experts actually go to date to say a relationship where you stand extremely desi sex drawn to her won't ever work. I personally feel that is going too far. However they have a point. The more attracted you're the more agenda you could have and the less yourself you'll be. So what's the antidote for HWS (Hot Woman Syndrome)?
The antidote is stop putting her up on a pedestal!!! In the event that you knew she ripped the heads from small animals in her time would you still be drawn to her? If that doesn't turn you off then insert any morally repugnant thing she could do and assume she just might. Truth be told that you don't know her. Despite dating her for some time you can't fool yourself that you realize every skeleton in her closet! Understand you're drawn to her on her looks, but is that actually enough for you? I know I'd like both a nice-looking woman and someone who has a personality I am attracted to. I don't know if I am drawn to her personality for quite some time. The thing is most guys learn the minimum about her and any faults are not immediately obvious. They then just assume her personality is as much as their standards. Don't assume.
I enter interactions with beautiful women with genuine curiosity about who they are, without the assumption that I want to have any kind of romantic or sexual relationship with them. I want to get to understand them to find out if they're as much as my standards. I treat them exactly the same way I treat a female I am not drawn to within an interaction. I am just myself and I don't have an agenda with her. If I learn more about her that I love then I escalate as I actually do in interactions I have with less attractive women. Virtually no time do I put her on a pedestal above me. We're equal, period.
So do whatever you should do to eliminate your agenda and stay true to being yourself if you are around an exceptionally beautiful woman. Personally I recently assume she may have dismembered puppy heads in her purse. Yes I know I am a little weird. It works for me though. I recently don't tell her that.
Don't assume all woman lives as much as my standards, because she is really hot doesn't pre-approve her for anything in my mind. It shouldn't in your head either. Take some time to find out what's interesting about her and be thankful the same as anyone else. Stay confidently and actively being yourself.
